5 Tips For Developing A Relationship

Today, heartache and problems in a relationship are common problems at a psychologist’s office. Betrayal, jealousy, mental dependence, and dysfunctional cohabitation can eventually lead to the destruction of a relationship.

If we look only a few decades into the past, divorces were almost unknown and there was no talk of relationship problems. Most people got married exactly once and the marriage lasted until the grave, regardless of whether the couple was happy or not or what adversities they had to face.

At one time, this was due to the enormous social pressure on women to marry and start a family – marriage has been the only option and goal for many women since childhood. The woman’s job was to have children, take care of the home and family. Many could rebel against their fate and defy a system that subjugated women, but much ended up adapting to pressure from society. Today, things are different.

Man chooses his partner himself and the emphasis today is on the happiness of both parties.  People put themselves ahead of others and are willing to try many different relationships before settling into their fields (if they do at all). However, this has led to differences coming easily and the resulting psychological problems being difficult and heavy.

According to some statistics, relationships in modern society do not last longer than ten years. This is usually due to lack of communication.

Even if there is no perfect and undisputed or problem-free relationship, below are tips for developing and improving your relationship:

5 Tips To Make Your Relationship Work

Don’t demand too much

If you want to make your relationship work, it’s important that you don’t demand impossibilities from your partner. Sometimes we demand things from another as if they were their owner or boss. The truth is that no one belongs to anyone.

We need to be aware that sometimes people make mistakes. It is much better to be positive and understanding of blunders made by another and to value them as their own selves than to require them to behave in a way that is not characteristic of them.

This does not mean that we could not suggest things to them or challenge them. However, there is a clear difference between the requirement and the proposal. When you suggest something, it is very possible that one will agree to it, but if you demand something, the other can immediately take a stand.

You may not enjoy being pressured by someone to do something. If someone, in turn, suggests something to you and they tell you what the good consequences of the change are, you might have a very different attitude.

Again, the partner has blocked the shower drain with his hair, again he has squeezed a toothpaste tube from the wrong end, again he has left dirty shoes on the carpet… These are small everyday problems that arise when two people share a common space. Small things can start to get annoying immensely, but complaining about small things is pointless.

We tend to dramatize problems that aren’t really problems at all. We inflate things and rage about insignificant things.

It’s true that you can start to get enraged when your partner always leaves their dirty coffee cups for you to wash, but an event like this shouldn’t escalate into something bigger than what it really is.

Quarreling and romping about a small one is simply not worth it! Treat things with humor and understand that everyone has their own faults. Someone is super neat, another messy – people act differently.