Are Offensive, Critical People Missing Something From Within?

Why do some people constantly criticize the things around them to feel good? What is the motive for their offensive criticism? What is missing from their insides and needs to be filled?

The answer to these questions can be the key to understanding critical people.

A study by Wake Forest University showed how critical people were actually more unhappy and showed a higher risk of depression.

Another recent study came to the same conclusion. It revealed how destructive criticism, rejection, and humiliation are dealt with in the same part of the brain. It is the part that regulates our sense of pain.

If we remain to ponder that sentence, we may realize that critical people are the least satisfied with their lives. They are people who need to “overthrow the outer in order to bring out the inner.”

People who are not happy with other people’s accomplishments are more likely to cause problems than make solutions. They are negative people, or vacuums with low self-esteem.

Low self-esteem is at the bottom of destructive criticism

What we criticize in other people says more about us than about them. When we talk about other people, we are actually reflecting our own traits on them.

In this case, critical people reflect aspects of their personality or behavior that they do not accept or want to see in themselves. But they see them in others.

Because of this, healthy and well-behaved people are not constantly criticized. It is because they have inner peace. They know themselves and know what they don’t like about themselves.

That’s why they work with themselves and not just other people. Good self-esteem and a healthy relationship with ourselves determine how we interact with others.

So what can we do? Whenever we see a nervous, unpleasant, or annoying trait in another, we should consider how much of the same trait is actually found in us.

How does this affect me? Why can’t I stand it? Why don’t I want to be close to them? Maybe it brings us closer to understanding the parts of ourselves that we thought we were outside of.

How can we turn criticism into positive?

Before judging, we should ask ourselves a question. Is my comment helpful at all?  In other words, do I give them information, advice or anything else they need? Is it constructive or destructive? If I’m not going to add anything, why should I take something away?

There is another good question. Am I criticizing something in another, or really something I don’t like about myself? What part of that behavior do I not tolerate in myself? What part of this criticism actually concerns me?

Finally, before judging, we should try empathy. Before making a subjective comment, it’s best to think about another person. Because every story has two sides, right?

What could have made them work that way? What can I do to improve the situation? How does it affect me, or what effect will my comment have?

When criticism comes from an internally intact person, it is helpful criticism. On the other hand, when we criticize anger, bitterness, jealousy, or unhappiness, it is negative. And it can be very harmful.