Love Everyday Little Things

When was the last time you really thought about everyday little things? So no important events like anniversaries, birthdays or other celebrations. But quite simple everyday events. 

Most of us love small details because they strengthen us, our humility, our greatness, our relationships, and our feelings.

Small things strengthen affection and support our relationships through daily care, attention, and emotion.

Small things bring about whole change

Small things bring about change. They help us experience our comfort without the need for theatrical confessions or heroes to save us from the clutches of the dragon.

True heroism leaves its mark through small gestures, planting kindness, and reaping greatness in harvest. It is important for us to know how to see the richness of each day.

Many times we hope to one day win the main pot in the lottery. Such a miracle would turn our lives upside down. But we should note that the real main pot is found in the things we already enjoy every day.

For example, a kiss, a hug, a conversation with someone special, a tasty meal, a sleep after a bath, an inspiring movie, a dog greeting, an afternoon movie under the cover of popcorn pops, dreams and goals and reading a book in good company.

We can all enjoy these everyday “little things” without realizing it. We may think it’s important to start a diet, go to the gym, or pre-write a work-related report. It’s all desirable and good, but what’s really important is that the pages of our calendar don’t turn without moments of smile.

Gather emotional memories and enjoy the little things

If we make the effort to gather emotional memories, we can enjoy the little things that help us strengthen our relationships  and, in general, better every day. To do so, we can begin to keep a diary in which we write down all the details we enjoy every day.

In addition, we can make a love map that fills us with all the little and beautiful details of life and the people we love the most. But then what is a love map?

According to psychologist John Gottman, a love map is a list of specific things we should know about the people we love. When we know these details, it helps us to see more closely every day the opportunities we can show them affection for. When we make a love map of someone we love, it leaves a mark on our brains that helps us remember the things we love in them.

What should we know when we make a love map?

When making a love map, you should find answers to questions like the following:

• What is his favorite food?
• What is his favorite movie, TV show, or book?
• Which two people does he greatly respect? Why?
• What kind of animals does he like the most?
• What two things would he get first if he won the lottery?
• What can you do to improve your relationship with him?
• Where would he like to travel?
• What does he especially enjoy?
• What would he like to change in himself? What about others?

• How does he want to spend an afternoon at home?
• What are his hopes and goals?
• What tasks does he feel he is at his best in?
• What aspect of life would he like to improve in his own life?
• What kind of books does he like? When does he want to read?
• What kind of magazines interest him?
• What does he prefer to do when he is sore and unable to leave home?
• What is his most desirable gift wish?
• What particularly worries him or makes him uneasy?
• What things make him experience pride in himself?

With questions like this, we can create an extensive love map to help us appreciate everyday little things. It is important for the people we love to feel special, unique and irreplaceable.

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