When Loneliness Becomes Unbearable, It’s Time To Take Action

You probably consider loneliness a negative thing. You may have heard of unpleasant experiences caused by loneliness, or otherwise got the impression that loneliness is a bad thing. Unless you find a solution to this problem, you may find loneliness a completely intolerable state of being.

Negative connotations and perceptions of loneliness have their own consequences. The moment you feel lonely or think you are left alone, you also begin to feel unhappy. As a result, you may feel restless and begin to feel anxious when left alone. These feelings can make you make bad decisions. The best way to avoid this situation is to take action.

Recognize your feelings about loneliness

Think about what loneliness makes you feel. Does it make you feel angry or maybe sad? Identifying feelings of loneliness is important so that you can get rid of them. If you let them go out of your mind, they can no longer harm you. If you ignore them, they won’t go away in your mind. In contrast, they accumulate inside you and become toxic so that they create an even greater vacuum inside you.

If you stay to identify how you feel in moments like this, it will help you keep an emotional diary. You can write in it about your own feelings and the feelings you experience when you are alone. Another option is to write a letter to someone describing what you feel. You can also draw a picture, talk to someone in confidence, or simply turn to professionals for help.

You might think you don’t have time for things like this. This is because it is difficult for you to look at what is causing you pain and distress. Therefore, you try to avoid looking at this matter. Looking at what is causing the pain will allow you to get rid of what makes you feel unhappy and eventually make you accept that thing. This is very important, if not an essential step in this process.

When you manage to identify what makes you feel lonely, you need to put an end to the actions or thoughts that feed that feeling. For example, you may withdraw from your family just because you feel unhappy. It is a different thing to be alone, but a very different thing to act in such a way that you are also left alone.

You need to make an effort to make new friendships. You have to try hard to leave behind relationships that make you feel more and more lonely. Try to be aware when you accept invitations to things you wouldn’t normally do, but you only accept them because you feel unhappy. Think about it in your mind, even if it says, “If I didn’t feel unhappy, would I go along?” If your answer is yes, you should make an effort on this matter.

Change your perceptions of loneliness

Think about what perceptions make you feel that loneliness is unbearable. Maybe you think being alone means you’re not good enough. Or maybe you feel like you can’t keep anyone close to you or doing things alone feels but simply embarrassing and confusing.

The only way to fight these feelings is to accept them and, surprisingly, to do the exact opposite. You might think it’s embarrassing to go to a coffee shop or a movie alone. Decide to go there anyway. You will find that you are by no means the only person who goes alone to a cafe or to the movies. Most importantly – you will find that this can actually make you feel happier.

Why not try some new activity or hobby for fun? Maybe you already work eight hours a day and think you’re already busy enough anyway. Then when you come home after work and find that you have no plans for the evening, you may start to incubate things in your mind and as a result, you may come up with negative thoughts about loneliness. So try the activity you always wanted to try, or even go for some kind of exercise, like even zumba after work.

There are activities that will help you grow as a person and allow you to realize yourself as you are. On top of all that, these features will help you expand your circle of acquaintances and make you realize that you are not as alone as you think. You need to consciously face your sadness and realize that you are not dependent on anyone to be happy.

You should start questioning your own perceptions. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Do what you like without worrying about whether other people can take part in these activities with you. It’s about your happiness and happiness. You deserve the best, you are allowed to feel happy and content with yourself even when you are alone –  not just when there are other people around you or when you live in a relationship.